What is Love?

What is Love?

We, as a society, are obsessed with love. Love is everything, and is connected to the meaning of life, yet how do we define it? Places all over the world have different descriptions for it. Even in languages there are different meanings for the simple word.

According to Google, love is an intense feeling of deep affection or is when you feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment. With this broad definition, it’s no wonder that so many people are confused about what love is. The Greeks have several different types of love that help define the feeling. According to Psychology Today these types of love are:
Eros – Sexual love
Philia – Friendship love
Storge – Family love
Agape – Universal love
Ludus – Playful/Uncommitted love
Pragma – Practical love
Philautia – Self love

In the Spanish language there are also two types of love. You can either say “te amo” or “te quiero” both say, “I love you”, however they hold different meanings. According to English to Spanish Raleigh, a translation service, “te quiero” would be a love that you have for your best friend. “Te amo” would be appropriate to use towards your spouse or family.

Across the world in different languages we try to describe love in many ways. We say, “I love you” in thousands of ways. Our obsession with finding love has driven us to do incredible things. With all of us looking for love, it’s crazy to think that every person’s love is completely different from one another.

How Do You Know You Found “The One”

How Do You Know You Found “The One”

Finding you’re fairytale ending is what most of us think about. Being with the one person that makes you a better version of yourself is a shared dream we all have. This has become the apple of our society’s eyes. How do you find it and how do you know what you found is real?

The current generation has been raised on Disney and fairytale love. However, this generation also has apps that make hooking up with strangers easier than ever. Deciphering whether or not you have the real deal can be complicated. Sure there are a bunch of quizzes online and you could even look at astrological signs to help you, but those don’t really help a whole lot. Thankfully, we have E-Harmony with a list of signs that mean you found the one:

You’re No Longer Playing the “Game” – When you’ve found “the one” you won’t be playing the dating game anymore. You won’t be chasing the perfect relationship, because you are in the perfect relationship.
You are Good Enough – You no longer feel the need to impress anyone else because “the one” makes you feel like you are enough.
Conflict is Easily Managed – Arguments will happen, and if you’re with “the one” you both will work through disagreements and find resolutions together.
Simple Tasks become Interesting – Your normal routine becomes more exciting when you’re with “the one.”
There’s No Drama – When you’re in the relationship with “the one” you’ll find minimal to no drama. This may be because you are no longer playing games in the relationship.
You’re Friends and Family Get It – You no longer have to explain to your friends and family why you love “the one” because they understand it. Your friends and family see how your relationship works, and they love it.
You Make them Happy – You can make “the one” happy just as much as they make you happy.
Same Life Goals – Your goals are similar, if not the same, as theirs.
Respect – You both hold mutual respect for each other.

Finding “the one” is a challenge, but staying with “the one” shouldn’t be too difficult. When it comes to deciding whether or not you found the one, you really shouldn’t have to ask yourself this. It should be obvious in the way that your relationship is so different than previous ones. You can rely on silly quizzes, or astrological signs, but ultimately only you will know the true answer.

Dating Apps Influence

Dating Apps Influence

In today’s modern and fast paced world it makes sense that we’ve started online dating and using dating apps. We used to write love letters, now we write witty text messages. Dating apps help get us out there. They’re a great way to let the digital world know that you’re ready to mingle. Unfortunately, dating apps seem to have lessened the meaning of a relationship since we can easily swipe right on to the next person.

We live in the age where it’s not embarrassing to have an online dating profile. It’s normal for a person to have multiple profiles across different sites. There is a dating app for just about any diverse groups. For example, if you like to smoke marijuana, there’s a dating app for that. As well as if your diet is gluten free, there’s a specific dating app for you as well. The possibilities are endless.

Vanity Fair released an article titled “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse’” which discussed the influence dating apps have on relationships. We’re in a “hook-up culture” according to the article. The use of these apps could be just for sex, or to actually find love. These apps make it as if you’re “basically ordering a person.” With these apps we’re also experiencing a whole other level of superficiality.

Dating Apps typically have the setup of either swipe left for no, or swipe yes to be matched. All you get to see of a person is a short bio and maybe three pictures. That’s all you get when you have to decide whether or not you want to be matched with someone. If you are matched, when the person you swiped right on swiped right on your picture too, you are then allowed to have an actual conversation with them. You can match with several hundred people, all based on looks.

Dating apps have created the ideal world for short-term relationships. The dating game has changed all because the accessibility to it that we have at our finger tips.

Scams Targeting Concerned Grandparents

Scams Targeting Concerned Grandparents

Unfortunately for every single good person out there, thousands of horrible people lie in wait to take advantage of someone. A popular scam that is going around lately targets the grandparents of people who spend a lot of time on social media sites. These scammers will use the information of the people they find on Social media sites to pretend to be that person.

Once the scammer has gathered enough information, they will contact the grandparent and tell him or her that they were arrested and need bail money. They will ask that the grandparent not mention this problem to anyone else in the family, for fear of being embarrassed. If the grandparents give the caller money, the scammer will disappear with money, never to be seen again.

Luckily, this scam can be avoided by following these two tips:
Ask the caller a lot of questions. Ask why the person’s voice sounds different, and they may reply with their nose was broken during or before the arrest. Ask as many questions as possible to try and trip them up. They may have some of the answers, but they probably won’t have all of them.
Talk to the family. If they do not want the rest of the family to know, then that should raise some red flags. The best thing to do is to talk to the rest of the family. You might discover that the grandkid that “called” is actually safe at home.

Scammers prey off of their victims panic and fear, and one of the best ways to scare someone is to cut them off from the people they trust. This is why scammers never want a person to think things through, or talk to loved ones. If you are ever put into a situation where some is requesting money, but doesn’t want to give you the time to think about the situation, it is likely a scam, and should be avoided.

New California Marijuana Laws for 2018

New California Marijuana Laws for 2018

It’s a brand new year, and that means new laws for Californians. One of the big ones this year, is the ability for marijuana dispensaries to legal sell their product to anyone who is over the age of 21. This is something that some Californians are very excited about, however, they need to realize that there are still restrictions on how and where marijuana can be used.

Starting January 1st, licensed marijuana dispensaries will be able to sell their products to of age, legal adults. Anyone under the age of 21 is not legally permitted to buy or use marijuana in any form. If a minor is caught using then they will be required to take a drug education course and perform community service. Any dispensary caught selling product to a minor will risk losing their license and paying a hefty fine.

There are also restrictions for where marijuana can be used, just like there are restrictions for drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes. For instance, marijuana cannot be smoked in public areas, or near schools. A person is also not allowed to drive while under the influence of marijuana.

The use of marijuana in California has been approved for recreational use. This means it can be used by a person in the privacy of their own home. They cannot use it in a way that disturbs other people. If a person plans on enjoying this new law, they need to make sure they understand all of the laws surrounding the use of marijuana. If they don’t they could find themselves in more than a little bit of trouble.

California: The Sanctuary State

California: The Sanctuary State

For those unaware, the start of the new year also marked the start of California being a sanctuary state. The controversial decision to become a sanctuary state was decided on by California politicians at the end of 2017. At the beginning of October, Governor Jerry Brown signed it into law, and the law would take effect on January 1st, 2018.

By becoming a sanctuary state, California has announced itself a safe place for undocumented and illegal immigrants. The new law effectively limits what state and local law enforcement agents can do to assist federal immigration authorities. The law bans enforcement agents, at both the local and state level, from enforcing immigration holds on arrested individuals.

This new law is in direct defiance of President Trump’s calls to focus on deporting millions of undocumented and illegal immigrants. This only led to a greater rift between Washington D.C. and the state of California.

Many California police chiefs opposed the bill in its early stages, and switched to a neutral stance when the bill was later amended. However, many still express concerns for the safety of the general public. They fear this new law will allows certain career criminals, ones who stick to lower levels of crime, will be continually released back onto the street due to the new law.

Only time will tell if California’s decision to become a sanctuary state was a good idea or not.

Drive High, Get a DUI

Drive High, Get a DUI

2018 is bringing a lot of new changes to California laws. One of the biggest is that licensed dispensaries will be able to sell marijuana to anyone who is over the age of 21. This new law will make it easier for individuals to get ahold of marijuana, which will likely lead to more people using this. Unfortunately, this can include drivers.

A person should never get behind the wheel of a vehicle when they are under the influence of any kind of substance. Doing so can negatively affect their ability to safely drive a vehicle, and lead to an accident. This is why the California Highway Patrol (CHP) has started a new campaign: Drive high, get a DUI.

This new campaign is to remind everyone that it is illegal to drive while under the influence of drugs or alcohol. This includes driving while high on marijuana. Being high can impair a person’s motor skills and reaction times. This makes them more likely to get into an accident than drivers who do no smoke marijuana.

In an effort to keep the roads safe, the CHP will pull over anyone who they suspect is driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol. If a person wishes to avoid this, then they need to be safe while driving. This means they should not drink alcohol, or ingest marijuana, before getting behind the wheel of a motor vehicle.

How to Help the Wine Country

How to Help the Wine Country

California tends to catch on fire every year, except this year it caught on fire in wine country. Wine Country in California includes:

• Napa Valley
• Sonoma Country
• Gold Country
• Livermore
• Tri-Valley
• Lodi
• Mendocino
• Monterey County
• San Luis Obispo County
• Santa Barbra County
• Santa Cruz County
• Temecula Valley

 
Wine Country is a large part of California, and with it being burned this past year, it is greatly affecting many folk’s lives. Visit California recommends several ways folks can help Wine Country recover.

• Plan a visit
• Stay at the hotels
• Drink wine, or beer
• Donate directly

 
When making a donation to Wine Country, you can check out VisitCalifornia.com for more information. There are several charities that you can donate to including:

• Napa Valley Community Foundation’s Disaster Relief Fund
• Redwood Credit Union North Bay Fire Relief Fund
• United Way

 

Whether you donate, or go visit, you will be helping Wine Country recover from the massive fires. Helping the area by boosting the economy will also help California overall. Helping each other get on their feet is a part of the California vibe.

What Legalizing the Sale of Marijuana Means

What Legalizing the Sale of Marijuana Means

This new year brought Californians the ability to sell marijuana. This also allows folks the opportunity to purchase marijuana for recreational use. You may be under the impression that this means you can smoke whenever and wherever you want. However that’s not the case.

It’s important to remember that though it is legal in California to smoke recreationally, and medically, it is still not legal nationally. That means you can still get into trouble federally and that on government property, marijuana is still very illegal.

Another area where Californians have to be cautious is when it comes to driving. Along with the legalization of sales of marijuana, another bill passed making driving while high illegal. If you’re driving with marijuana in your car, you must have it stored in a container in your trunk according to the LA Times.

As soon as the clock hit midnight on New Year’s Eve, people began lining up to buy marijuana. However, dispensaries may face issues with their revenue. Most banks are nationally accredited and insured. Since marijuana is illegal at the federal level, banks cannot supply services to marijuana dispensaries. This leads to many dispensaries requiring cash-only transactions.

With marijuana sales and recreational use being such a new concept for this state, it will be interesting to see what other laws will be developed. The sale of marijuana means a fun time to some, but to others it’s a bit more complicated.

Nature in California

Nature in California

California is a large state full of opportunities and things to do. Even though it’s winter, the temperatures don’t always show it. This is a great opportunity to enjoy the great outdoors by checking out some of the parks within California. With hundreds of hiking trails, 118 state parks, and 9 national parks, California is loaded with outdoor activities.

California is typically divided up into three parts: northern, central, and southern. Each part of the state has different environments to offer. In Northern California you find more trees, and in particular you can find redwoods. The Redwood National Park is home to the some of the tallest trees on earth. The National Park Service (NPS) helps preserve, and maintain the park so you can go hiking, or camping, or even just drive on through.

In Central California you can find Yosemite National Park. Yosemite National Park is famous for the stunning waterfalls, and gorgeous valley. NPS welcomes visitors to “take nothing but pictures; leave nothing but footprints”. Within Yosemite you can go hiking, camping, and swimming.

In Southern California there’s Death Valley National Park. Death Valley is the hottest, driest, and lowest national park. NPS stated that you should be very prepared to visit this park by planning ahead. One should check the weather conditions beforehand and be ready for extreme conditions when visiting. Even through the conditions in this park can be dangerous, you can still go camping, and sightseeing. Death Valley is full of beautiful desert landscapes.

There are plenty of parks within California that are waiting to be explored. Every good weather day is an opportunity to get out and see more of this amazing state.